Give yourself permission to get help. This is the rainy day for which you have been saving. Use your resources wisely to extend quality time for yourself and your loved one. Make a list of what needs to be done hourly, daily, weekly. Decide which of those things you need/want to do yourself. Group the remaining tasks to determine what kind of help is needed; for example, help with personal care for the patient, household help or emotional support. Investigate community resources, such as church, friends, neighbors and relatives. You do them a favor to include them in your network of support. Make a list of things that friends and family members can to do help. When someone asks, "What can I do to help?", assign a specific task. Look at the pros and cons of agency help versus contracting directly with a paid caregiver, or hiring a friend or relative. Hire help for routine tasks. Save your time and energy to build memories with your loved one. You are doing a very hard job, both physically and emotionally. You deserve help.